There is no shame in bravely expressing your emotions

Everyone experiences a wide range of emotions every day, including positive ones like joy and happiness, as well as negative ones like sadness and anger.

When faced with negative emotions, some people will immediately “lose control” and vent them out recklessly, which not only hurts others but also makes the situation worse. Others choose to bury their negative emotions deep inside and suppress themselves, seemingly avoiding conflict, but this is equally not conducive to solving the problem and can even trap them in a sense of “injustice”.

Actually, it’s quite normal for a person to experience negative emotions, and there’s nothing to be ashamed of. Expressing one’s emotions is also a legitimate need, so there’s no need to feel ashamed about it.

The emergence of negative emotions often stems from unmet emotional needs. Only by expressing these needs can others understand them. If you don’t express yourself and rely solely on others’ guesses, problems cannot be solved. At the same time, expressing oneself is also a part of resolving negative emotions. The moment you articulate your emotions, you will feel a sense of relief. If you always suppress yourself, it will be detrimental to both your physical and psychological well-being.

Expressing emotions is not inherently problematic; it’s just that we need to learn how to express them correctly.

When facing negative emotions, learn to accept and recognize them

Facing negative emotions, the first thing we need to do is to accept them.

Don’t feel that experiencing emotions like anger or sadness makes you “weak”. Everyone experiences such emotions. Accept your negative emotions and tell yourself: It’s okay, I’m in a negative mood right now. I allow myself to be sad, and I allow myself to be angry. It’s okay to cry for a while, and it’s okay to “break down” for a few minutes, because every emotion I have deserves respect.

Next, take a deep breath and identify your own emotions. You can ask yourself: What emotion am I experiencing at this moment? Can I give it a name?

The process of naming will help you stop being “immersed” in negative emotions, and instead detach yourself from them, become aware of the underlying causes and needs that give rise to your emotions, and face problems with a more rational mindset.

Next time, when you face the same emotion again, you can recall this name and say to yourself, “I’ve encountered it again, it’s okay, I can already handle this emotion.”

Dont make any decision when you are emotional.

Learn to express emotions, rather than expressing them emotionally

Having read up to here, I believe you have calmed down and will not vent your emotions recklessly without considering the consequences. The next question is, how to express emotions correctly?

You need to learn to express emotions, rather than expressing them emotionally.

For example, you could say, “You forgot my birthday, which made me feel very disappointed and sad. Because I really hope you can come and spend this memorable day with me, and I also hope you value me. From now on, let’s celebrate every birthday together, okay?”

Instead of saying, “I knew you didn’t care about me at all! You can even forget my birthday, what else can you remember?!”

When expressing emotions, you can describe your feelings and explain the reasons behind them. Then, clearly state your needs and propose solutions. It’s important to note that expressing emotions should be sincere while adhering to your own principles.

When you express yourself emotionally through mere accusations and criticisms, all you will get is a broken relationship and unresolved issues. When you learn to express your emotions correctly, you will neither suppress nor wrong yourself, and you can give both parties a chance to solve problems.

May we all reconcile with our emotions, embrace every facet of ourselves, and become better versions of ourselves through harmonious coexistence with various emotions.

Emotions contain immense spiritual energy

Making decisions and implementing things emotionally is a great consumption of one’s mental energy. After you become hysterical, your body feels drained, and depression follows. The words you say and the things you do have no power. People can see that you are in an emotional state.

When you are caught up in a certain emotion, your logic, inspiration, and perception all cease. You can’t hear others’ words or see their situations, and you ignore various unfavorable factors in the environment.

For example, if you hear some good news and are in a very excited state, at this time, you will feel that you are omnipotent, arrogant, reckless, and lose the quality of prudence. Your overall perception will decrease, and then bad things will come.

However, when you express your emotions calmly, whether it’s expressing disappointment, longing, or fear, these emotions are more easily understood by others. These emotions do not enter your image, but rather enter your words. Others are more likely to understand you, rather than forming a stereotype of you as someone who is easily angered. It’s important to note that you are expressing what made you angry, rather than expressing that you are currently angry. It’s not anger controlling you, but rather you controlling anger.

People with energy are always calm. Anxiety and anger only indicate weakness and powerlessness. Don’t release your energy through anger, anxiety, or fear. Instead, calmly create words that are emotionally rich, easily accepted, and more powerful. Whether it’s calmness or creative emotional vocabulary, it requires deliberate and focused practice to achieve, but it’s also simple, because we deal with emotions every day.